What is sexual assault and sexual abuse

What is sexual assault and sexual abuse?

» What is sexual assault?

» What is sexual abuse?

» What is rape and what is date rape?

» What are the affects of sexual assault?

» Partners, family and friends

» Why does sexual assault and abuse happen?

» Common myths

What is sexual assault?

Sexual assault can be a violent, unexpected, traumatic and sometimes life threatening event or series of events. Sexual assault is ANY unwanted sexual act or behaviour which is threatening, violent, forced or coercive and to which a person has not given consent or was not able to give consent.

Examples include:

Putting a penis, object or other parts of the body into someone’s mouth, anus or vagina.

Being forced to give or receive oral sex – putting a penis into someone’s mouth.

Being forced to masturbate or forced to watch someone masturbate.

Unwanted sexual touching – on private parts of the body.

Sexual harassment – making inappropriate sexual comments.

Voyeurism – someone exposing themselves to you.

Making someone watch a sexual act or pornography.

The term ‘sexual violence’ is often used to describe sexual assault and sexual abuse.

Sexual assault is a crime

What is sexual abuse?

Sexual abuse is when someone in a position of power or authority takes advantage of a person’s trust and respect to involve them in sexual activity. It can involve any of the examples above.

Sexual abuse can occur between:

A child and an adult

A child and an older child

A patient and a doctor

A student and a teacher

A parishioner and a priest

Sexual abuse is a crime

What is rape and what is date rape?

Rape is another word used for sexual assault. It is ANY unwanted sexual act or behaviour, which a person did not consent to or was not able to consent to.

Date rape happens when someone you have just met or are going out with forces or manipulates you into having unwanted sexual contact. Date rape can involve forced sexual acts or subtle or threatening sexual behaviour.

Regardless of your relationship, sexual contact without consent is against the law.

“If someone buys you a drink or dinner then you must have sex with them”.

This sort of belief contributes to date rape. Just because someone brought you a drink or dinner, it does not entitle them to have sex with you. Date rape is never okay.

Rape and date rape are crimes

What are the affects of sexual assault?

If you have been sexually assaulted you may be experiencing a wide range of emotions and reactions that can be very distressing. This is quite normal for someone who has been through such a traumatic experience.

The impact can be short or long term and can affect you in different ways.

You may be feeling:

Shock or disbelief – I feel numb. I never thought this could happen to me.

Shame and embarrassment – how can I show my face again? What will people think?

Fear – I’m afraid to be alone, to go out, to go to sleep because I’ll have nightmares.

Sad and worthless.

Angry – how dare they do this to me!

Guilt and self blame – if only I hadn’t…

Helpless.

Anxious – I’m having panic attacks.

Physically unwell – I feel sick in the stomach; my head aches all the time.

Some common reactions you might also experience include:

Feeling differently about sex, even with your regular partner.

Feeling responsible for the assault/abuse.

Feeling isolated, alone and out of touch with the rest of the world.

Believing no one can understand how you are feeling.

Unable to stop thinking about the assault.

Unable to think clearly or to concentrate.

Not wanting to be touched by anyone.

Feeling that you cannot trust anyone.

Feeling unsafe when you are alone.

Everyone has different feelings and reactions after a sexual assault and this may change from one day to the next. Talking to someone about the experience may help you to cope and to heal.

Remember that you are NOT to blame, regardless of whether:

The perpetrator was an acquaintance, date, relative, friend or partner.

You had been sexually intimate with that person or with others before.

You were drinking or using drugs.

You froze and did not or could not say “no” .

You did not fight back.

Partners, family and friends

When someone close to you has been sexually assaulted, it can have a devastating impact on you and on the family unit. It is important for partners, family and friends to be supportive and to help the person overcome the affects of the assault.

You can help by:

Being non-judgemental

Believing the person

Encouraging them to talk about their feelings and listening to what they have to say

Allowing them to be in control of what is happening

Reassuring them it is not their fault

Ensuring their safety

You may also be affected and experiencing a range of emotions yourself, including:

Grief

Frustration

Confusion

Guilt – for not being able to prevent the assault or abuse

Wanting revenge

Anger – at the person, at the offender

It can be just as important for you to seek support and to talk about your own feelings with a counsellor. You may find the information sheet “Caring for a Family Member or a Friend Following Sexual Assault” useful.

Why does sexual assault and sexual abuse happen?

Sexual assault and sexual abuse are perpetrated by both men and women, although the majority of perpetrators are male and are known to their victim. Usually incidents are planned and occur because the perpetrator wants to feel a sense of power and control over another person. It is usually NOT about sexual pleasure.

Sexual assault and sexual abuse do not discriminate. They can happen to women, men and children, regardless of age, race or culture. In Australia, statistics show that one in six women and one in 20 men over the age of 15 years will experience sexual violence at some stage in their life time.

It is important to know that sexual assault or sexual abuse do NOT happen because of the dress or behaviour of the victim.

Common myths

There are many myths and untruths about sexual assault and sexual abuse. These are often disguised as facts or are community held beliefs. These myths can make it hard for people to recover because they tend to blame the victim and defend the perpetrator.

To find out more about these myths and the real truth, you may find the information sheet Common Myths useful.

Consent

Consensual sex is when both parties are of legal age, agree to engage in intercourse by choice, and have the freedom and capacity to make that choice. This means agreeing to sexual relations without fear, coercion, force or intimidation. Giving consent is active, not passive. It means freely choosing to say ‘yes’ and also being free to change your mind at any time.

In Western Australia, the legal age for males and females to consent to sexual activity is 16 years of age. If you have sex with someone who is under 16 years of age it is a crime.

It is also a crime to have a sexual relationship with someone under 18 years of age if you have a relationship of authority with them, for example, you are their teacher or employer.

If someone is not able to give consent to sex, regardless of their age, it is a crime. People who cannot give consent are those who are:

unconscious, asleep, intoxicated, drugged, or have a psychological or decision-making disability that impacts on their ability to understand what they are consenting to.

Examples:

“I’ve been going out with this guy for a few months. He wanted me to have sex with him but I wasn’t ready. He started to shout and get really angry. I gave into him because I was so scared.”

“My husband and I separated six months ago. I still see him because of the children. Recently he came to the house, forced me into the bedroom and had sex with me.”

“I was at a party and had too much to drink. I fell asleep on a spare bed. I woke up with someone I didn’t know having sex with me.”

None of these people consented.

The Effects of Circumcision

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Facts about Circumcision

Circumcision started out around 3000BC when it was performed in ancient Egypt as a mark of slavery and as a religious rite. Aside from Jews and Muslims, however, people considered circumcision to be a repugnant form of genital mutilation and the Greeks and Romans outlawed circumcision. Circumcision was not commonly practiced in America until the Cold War years when technology, medicine and big business came together in the interest of institutionalized birthing.

in 1870, Dr Lewis Sayre, known as ‘the Columbus of the prepuce”, conducted several bizarre experiments and drew a correlation between the foreskin and a vast range of ailments that included gout, asthma, hernias, epilepsy, rheumatism, curvature of the spine, tuberculosis and elephantiasis. This led to the ubiquitous and systematic removal of the foreskin in America. The practice of circumcision became more deeply entrenched through the strident belief that masturbation, thought to be the cause of ailments as diverse as bed-wetting to mental retardation and insanity, could be cured with circumcision.

Dr John Harvey Kellog, a well-known fundamentalist health reformer and journalist, and also founder of the corn flake, was more direct. “A remedy for masturbation which is almost always successful in small boys is circumcision,” he wrote in “Secret Vice: Solitary or Self Abuse, a chapter from Plain Facts for Old and Young, 1888. “The operation should be performed by a surgeon without administering an anesthetic, as the brief pain attending the operation will have a salutary effect upon the mind, especially if connected with the idea of punishment.” His views were shared by prominent practitioners of the time who touted masturbation as the foundation for paralysis, consumption and heart disease, and advocated for circumcision as the cure for all these maladies.
Circumcision was also tied to sociocultural changes during the waves of immigration that flooded American cities. It became the mark of social class that distinguished gentrified real Americans from the insalubrious immigrants at a time when cleanliness was synonymous with godliness.

It became so accepted as the norm that standard medical textbooks in the 1900s depicted the normal penis without its foreskin.

It became so entrenched a practice that if parents did not circumcise their newborn sons, they were considered almost criminally negligent if not freakishly non-conformist. People had forgotten that circumcision was based not on any supreme medical imperative, but on the fantastically phobic mores of a Victorian society and the medical establishment did little to clear the smoke on what had become a profitable business.

During the 70s, Frederick Leboyer, an obstetrician and natural birthing pioneer, after extensive studies, discredited long standing medical claims and enforced lawsuits that forced hospitals to obtain parental consent before circumcising, and caused Americans (and Jews all over the world) to question circumcision.
By 1975, The The American Academy of Pediatrics reversed its pro-circumcision stance by stating ‘There is no absolute medical indication for routine circumcision of the newborn.” In 1984, the AAP published ‘Care of the Uncircumcised Penis”, which clearly supports the intact penis by stating ”The foreskin protects the glans throughout life”.

Function of The Foreskin

What is the purpose of the foreskin and why did nature deem it fit for every human male to be born with one? The foreskin is a protective sheath that encloses the head of the penis, the glans. It is the most sensitive part of the male anatomy, containing thousands of highly sensitive sensory receptors called Meissner corpuscles which are more abundant there than in any other part of the penis. The foreskin, in a newborn, is sealed to the glans in a tenacious, steadfast grip and only lends itself to retraction slowly over a period of years. Richly endowed with a profusion of blood vessels, it also has a ridged band or peripenic muscles that protects the urinary tract from contaminants, and an undersurface lined with mucocutaneous tissue found nowhere else on the body. This tissue contains ectopic glands that produce natural emollients and anti-
bacterial proteins similar to those found in mother’s milk. The foreskin not only protects the glans, with its framer ridges and its thousands of nerve endings, but it also is responsible for up to one third of the penis’ sexual perceptivity. The penis is meant to be essentially an internal organ but with circumcision, it becomes irrevocably an external one, and its skin becomes keratinized. With circumcision, three feet of veins, arteries and capillaries, 240 feet of nerves, and more than 20,000 nerve endings are destroyed, so are all the muscles, glands, epithelial tissue and sexual sensitivity associated with the foreskin.

The Effects of Circumcision

Circumcision has some extremely far reaching side effects that span the physical, psycho-emotional and neurobiological. There is no escaping the fact that circumcision is deeply traumatic, and has consequences that are more far-reaching than ordinarily considered. The newborn is strapped down and held down firmly, a device called a Gomco Clamp, invented by Dr Hiram Yellen, is used to stretch the prepuce and separate it from the glans by crushing it, and holding it against a cone. Pressure is applied for 5 minutes, (longer for older boys) to induce hemostasis, after which the excess prepuce is cut off with a sharp knife. The use of anesthesia is not mandatory, in some cases it is used, in some not on the basis that newborns do not feel pain.

No matter what the logic applied, pain is undoubtedly felt, as the sensitivity of newborns to all forms of light, pain, sound and feeling, is in fact, greatly heightened. This trauma affects the neurobiological receptors in the brain and permanently affects the way the child perceives and thinks. The extreme pain in the most tender and sensitive part of the body creates a disassociation. A trauma response is recorded by the memory centers and filed away. The brain promptly goes into healing mode and represses the memory, as it does with most painful stimuli.
The newborn has the expectation of being loved, nurtured and protected by his primary caregivers and when that trust is irrevocably broken, the newborn withdraws into a protective field, unable to bond or trust his mother and father. This affects all his other relationships henceforth, and also affects his ability to feel safe in the world. There is a massive disconnect between the heart, the genitals and the intellect. It creates the syndrome of the “intellectual male”, who prizes logic, rationality and linear forms of thinking and discounts intuition, psychic abilities and other gifts of the right brain. As an adult male, he has a tendency to resort to pornography because it enables him to stimulate his genitals and allow for biological release, while not requiring an emotional connection with his partner.

The adult male, upon sexual intercourse, will receive stimulation of the scar tissue, and have his core wound stimulated. Often inexplicable emotions will come up, leaving the feeling of restlessness, unexpressed anger and a feeling of disconnect, from himself and his partner. All this goes on, most often non-verbally, without any clear understanding of what truly is occurring. The adult male’s partner often feels this disconnect as an inability to bond or nest, or sometimes as an emotional or spiritual withdrawal.

The adult male is eager to experience connection with his genitals and heart, and is greatly disappointed in his inability to do so, often blaming his partner, and moving from partner to partner in an effort to experience closeness. This can also explain many adult males’ inability to commit.

Ramifications of a Circumcision Culture

Circumcision Culture refers to a culture where the idea of circumcision is touted as the norm, defended against, protected at all costs and forwards its cause to the next generation based on false information and purported benefits of religion, hygiene and/or aesthetics. Circumcised men, subconsciously realize the deep trauma inflicted upon them and wish to ensure that their offspring’s penises look and feel the same. Doctors feel the need to defend this practice, because they themselves have been circumcised and tout it also through the need to adhere to the party line. There is a cultural numbness to the pain and trauma inflicted upon the newborn and an almost apathetic resignation or acceptance of the practice. It presents itself as massive dissociation in the context of circumcised men glorifying the aesthetics of their circumcision, touting it as cleaner, more hygienic than an intact penis. In a circumcision culture, the education on the proper care of an intact penis is almost nonexistent. Through proper education on the care of the immature foreskin, resultant infections that arise from prematurely retracting the foreskin can be prevented. In the condition of phimosis, treatments may include: gentle daily manual retraction, topical corticosteroid ointment application or circumcision.

When violence is done to a child, in whatever form, the child often grows up wanting to retaliate and commit violence towards society, peers and close ones. The circumcised male often has stores of unexplained rage, which either stays repressed or finds it way out in the form of aggression, domestic violence, and in more severe cases, sexual abuse, rape and sociopathic behavior.

Much can be done to help. Meditation, Breath-work, Energy Healing, Regression Therapy and regular psychotherapy can all help in alleviating the trauma caused by circumcision. Circumcision Healing, a specific modality put together by the author, combines regression work, release work, ancestral healing and more to address the trauma and relationship dysfunction around circumcision. The key lies in proper education and the eradication of misinformation, and to a greater degree the motivational purification of the medical establishment back to the basics of ‘And First, Do No Harm’. The understandable and indisputable furore around female genital mutilation in other countries needs to replace the absolute acceptance of male genital mutilation in this country. The apparent double standard needs to be questioned for future generations in the natural care of the foreskin and in cultivating a culture of intactivism.

Veenaa Saynana,
Master Healer, Founder of Circumcision Healing
www.veenaasaynana.com

Psychic Skills Article

If the doors of perception were cleansed,
every thing would appear to man as it is, infinite.
For man has closed himself up, till he sees all things
through narrow chinks of his cavern.
—William Blake

Psychic abilities, which we all possess—offer a spacious mind that can change your life and your view of reality. Buddhists and Hindus practiced advanced forms of psychic abilities called Siddhis long before Christ. Scientific interest has been building and the evidence is now out, especially in the fields of quantum mechanics, which offers clear, research based facts on the science behind these abilities. Such abilities come under many terms: clairvoyance, ESP, psi, which is taken from the Greek alphabet and means ‘psyche’ or ‘soul’. Remote viewing, telepathic communication, auto-writing and scrying are skills that many modern people from all walks of life can learn easily and readily develop through practice.

The benefit to acquiring these skills is that perception shifts from a logical, linear-based perception, to a more expansive, spacious and intuitive awareness of reality. Information that is unavailable to the logical mind can appear serendipitously to the intuitive mind. The experience of the latter has been known to be life transforming, and to the uninformed or uninitiated mind, can appear at times to be freaky, scary and unpredictable. An experienced teacher is able to teach the skills necessary and guide the novice through these shifts in perception.

Most people can learn to quiet their mental chatter and move their conscious awareness from their ordinary ego-based mind-set to a much more spacious and expanded mindset—not bound by the barriers of space and time. The eighth-century Buddhist master Padmasambhava described a meditative skill he called moving from conditioned awareness to spacious or naked awareness. Modern man’s internalized perception of nature is often obstructed and distorted by excessive mental noise. This illusion and misperception is what Buddhists call maya or samsara —and it can cause a lot of unnecessary suffering.

This suffering takes its toll on the body, especially pronounced in the calcification of the pineal gland, caused by a build-up of toxins, heavy emotions and marked by a propensity for anxiety, stress-causing behavior and addictions. Meditation, energy clearing, prayer, being out in nature and exercise are ways in which we can decalcify our pineal gland, thereby reducing our stress and incessant, anxious mental chatter. Many are becoming aware of the insidious ways in which they suffer, and realizing that that is not the way we are meant to live. Our bodies are our temples, and the way in which we care for them can make a very big difference to how we experience life.

Developing our psychic gifts is completely connected to our consciousness and essential for understanding our true nature. At the higher levels of consciousness, our perception changes and so does our view of reality. We essentially become more peaceful and loving at these higher levels of consciousness, and sometimes, even let go of relationships, jobs, ways of being that no longer seem relevant. We embrace a way of being that is in alignment with our higher natures and it can seem very different to everyone else, and even to ourselves!
I feel that it is very important for us, as a species to embrace this higher evolution, as a path of ascension, primarily because the war and aggression that occurs at the lower levels of consciousness is destroying our species and this beautiful Earth that we live on.

By Veenaa Saynana, Medical Intuitive, Psychic Surgeon, Author & Speaker.

Veenaa Saynana will be teaching The Third Eye, A Psychic Skills Retreat at Hopesprings Institute, from May 20-22nd. Details at www.veenaasaynana.com

Mudras and yantras

How to use Mudras

The physical body is made up of five elements namely – Air, Water, Fire, Earth and Aakash (ether – the tiny intercellular spaces in the human body).

Imbalance of these elements disrupts the immunity system and causes disease.

Deficiencies in any of these elements can be made up by connecting one part of the body with another in a particular manner through Mudras.

When a finger representing an element is brought into contact with the thumb, that element is brought into balance. Therefore the disease caused by the imbalance is cured. Mudras start electromagnetic currents within the body which balance various constituting elements and restore health. The joining of fingers creates an effect on the human body.

Five Fingers for Five Elements

Thumb                      Fire

Index                         Air

Middle                       Aakash

Ring                           Earth

Little                          Water

Mudras for Benefits:

Gyan Mudra

Effective in cases of mental ailment, imparts happiness, the intellect develops memory is sharpened.

Join the tips of the index finger and thumb and keep the other 3 fingers stretched and joined.

Apaan Mudra

Helps in clearing the body by elimination of waste matter from the mouth, eyes, ears, nose etc. Helps when urine is obstructed, reduces constipation.

Join the tip of the thumb with the tip of middle and ring finger, keeping the other finger straight.

Prana Mudra

Helps in pumping the life force into your body. Beneficial for all types of diseases.

Imparts special power to the eyes.

Join the tip of the thumb with tip of little and ring finger. Keeping other two fingers straight.

Vayu Mudra

Helps in diseases like arthritis, trembling in Parkinson’s disease. Better results obtained if practiced after Prana mudra.

Press the index finger on the base of thumb and keep the thumb on the index finger. Let the other fingers be straight.

Surya Mudra

Reduces weight of your body.

Put the tip of ring finger at the base of thumb, with thumb gently pressing on it.

Ling Mudra

Produces heat in the body and helps in curing cold and cough.

Interlock the fingers of both hands together. Keeping the left thumb up (encircled by right thumb and index finger) i.e. left thumb should be vertically straight and right thumb around it.

Yantra (Hindu) /Mandala (Buddhist)

A yantra is a geometrical pattern made of several concentric figures (squares, circles, lotuses, triangles, point). The point (bindu) at the center of the yantra signifies unity, the origin, the principle of manifestation and emanation..

According to Tantra, the human being is a miniature universe. All that is found in the cosmos can be found within each individual, and the same principles that apply to the universe apply in the case of the individual being. For human beings the body is considered the most perfect and powerful of all yantras and is seen as a tool for inner
awareness.

All primal shapes of a yantra are psychological symbols corresponding to inner states of

human consciousness.

Shri Yantra:

Through this yantra one attains the favor of Lakshmi

and is never short of money. By reciting Lakshmi prayers to it everyday, one attains all benefits.

Shri Mahamrityunjay Yantra:

This yantra protects one from destructive influences like accidents, crises, sickness,epidemic, and similar life-threatening calamities.

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Coyote Medicine

Coyote Medicine

Coyote Medicine refers to trickster medicine. It has its roots in Native American Shamanism, where all animals have unique spiritual and symbolic characteristics which form their power medicine. One determines which animals are their totems i.e. power animals through divination or sightings, and are then able to utilize their totem animals’ specific medicine to remedy issues in their lives.

Coyote Medicine is one of the most powerful shamanic medicines available because it is guided by the machinations of your higher self, working with your internal Guidance Positioning System (GPS) while opposing the force of your own stubborn, unwilling nature. The conscious mind is run by the false ego self which seeks to separate and isolate in order to individuate. The conscious mind makes up only 10%, while the subconscious mind makes up 90%. This is a powerful process when you are developing your identity as a toddler and seek separation in order to discover and establish your unique personality and identity, i.e. the process of individuation. Your subconscious is the receptacle of all the trauma you have undergone, and the beliefs that were formed as a result of the trauma, is known as the Trauma Survival Pattern (TSP). Everyone of us has a different TSP, due to the differences in the details of the trauma and how we respond individually to the trauma.

There comes a point when your GPS realizes that certain belief systems in your TSP no longer serve your forward movement and that you need to grow beyond the place of stagnation, where you find yourself to be. Stagnation refers to the place where change has ceased to happen, due to the refusal to change.

This is where Coyote Medicine steps in, in tricking the false negative ego self, which is stubborn and hates change, by tricking the conscious mind into making a ‘mistake’ in order to facilitate a massive change. Understand that no one else but you, working with the fragmented parts of your own psyche, is involved in the process. Coyote medicine may employ other people, but all of it is orchestrated by your higher self, with its higher wisdom of knowing that change is crucial. Once it decides that the time for change is imminent, it starts of a whole chain of events in an effort to ‘trick’ the stubborn ego to release and let go, bringing it to a place of total surrender in abject humility. It is this place of being brought to your knees where the most power lies; the power to surrender and open to miracles.

Let me share a few examples.

In 2008, I visited Joshua Tree National Park, and did a meditative sand painting at the suggestion of a friend, who said that it was a very powerful place for manifesting all that you wanted. I had a list the length of my arm, asking for very specific things such as a heated pool and jacuzzi, a house that faced a park with a water feature running through it, a lover who was heavier than me and who could touch me the way I touched myself, in other words, exquisitely! and the freedom from the worry of paying bills.

A month later, I received the guidance to stop work completely, to stop doing healing sessions, workshops etc. I began spending my time going to the YMCA, and doing yoga and swimming everyday. It was a welcome respite because I had been working very hard, editing my book, traveling and giving talks and had burnt myself out. I received several insistent messages from my guides “Go to Eugene, Go to Eugene!” I thought it was because my ex lover, Justine, lived there and had recently been diagnosed with cancer. I wanted to go to Eugene and be there for her and help support her healing process. So I went ahead and booked a plane ticket and arranged to stay at my Justine’s girl-friend’s house. I felt the need to make some connections in Eugene, Oregon as I didn’t know many people there and so joined an online dating site and made friends with a lonely disabled widower, Bill. I could not get Bill’s face out of my mind, and when I arrived, I called him and we chatted on the phone. I felt a strong wave of attraction, which I found highly unusual.

My ex’s girlfriend began to feel threatened by me and suddenly asked me, with no warning, to leave. I had no where to go and did not want to bother Justine, who was going through chemotherapy. I had already arranged to meet the widower, Bill, in the afternoon, and called him to cancel our date, but it turned out that he had arrived early and was parked in the driveway. Bill kindly offered me a place to stay for a night or two, until I could figure out where else to go.

I landed at his place, feeling confused and mortified at the sudden and abrupt turn of events. My ego was screaming at the rejection I felt from being kicked out from the house, and did not like the place of discomfort of the precariousness of living off of savings and not knowing whether I would be safe and cared for. I was internally screaming at my guides for guiding so insistently to Eugene. After I calmed down, and looked around the place, it had unbelievably al the things I asked for on my sand painting at Joshua Tree! The house bordered the state park and had the Willamette River flowing down the middle! There was a heated pool and jacuzzi and a clubhouse where I could lead my events. I fell in love with Bill, and we enjoyed a nurturing relationship. I cooked the most amazing meals and he lost 60 lbs without even trying!

This is a very clear example of how my stubborn ego and pride was tricked by Coyote Medicine, being put in a place of neediness that enabled my dreams to be fulfilled. If I had not been in that needy and humble place, I would not have opened myself to seeing Bill clearly, past his weight and disability, for the loving man that he is.
Being in Eugene, I was able to lead events, meet significant soul tribe and do the spiritual work and development that I needed with the full support of Bill, who treasured and valued me. This incident gave me a healthy respect for Coyote Medicine and I have learnt to work with it more peacefully.

A client of mine, who carries heavy childhood sexual trauma, signed up for a daylong workshop on Self-Love. The workshop description was clearly posted on my website and on the FB event page. He had booked it a month in advance and had ample time to look at the workshop details to determine if it was suitable for him. At the workshop itself, when the time rolled around to the actual Individual Self Pleasuring Exercise which involved sensual touch as part of self love, he expressed utter consternation and was highly uncomfortable throughout the activity. Although everyone had privacy and were focused on their own individual process, he felt uncomfortable at exploring his own self-love expressed in a sexual manner. His discomfort enabled him to grow in leaps and bounds for it caused him to take a deeper look at the blocks he had towards loving himself completely. He was forced to look at the shame and guilt he had carried since childhood, and was brought to a state of abject surrender. He managed to let go of the old stagnant emotions and come to a place of acceptance and peace. He had the courage to go within and face the demons inside. Today, he is happier and is enjoying more abundance than ever before.

Coyote Medicine will take you on a wild joy ride, sometimes masking its voice as the voice of your inner guidance. You will be led to places which you normally would not go, due to the stubbornness of the false ego self. Coyote Medicine brings you to the edge of your greatest discomfort, which is where the most powerful transformation lies.
Take a few moments to close your eyes and go inward. Take several deep breaths to ground and center yourself. Reflect back upon your life. Can you remember when you were guided to go somewhere or do something and it turned out very differently? Did you find yourself in a place of great discomfort, almost beside yourself at the edge of your sanity? How did you transform yourself and your situation? What insights were you able to take away from the whole situation? Did this enable you to grow? How? Take some time to reflect on the whole process and journal.

Veenaa Saynana
www.veenaasaynana.com

Cellular Memory DNA

Cellular Memory

This body has memories from over a million years ago when your ancestors were masters, You chose this body because it has all the tools you will need as you awaken.

Your DNA is a microchip that not only carries all of your biological information, it also carries all of your psychological information as well! Everything you experience is recorded in detail in your DNA: All of your thoughts. All of your traumas. All the details of your accidents and illnesses.

Everything that ever happened to your parents, your grandparents, and all of your ancestors is recorded and remembered by your DNA. This is the greatest computer ever designed! It is your gift! It is your connection to the human internet! It is your search engine!

The problem is that the information about your cosmic abilities is buried beneath layers of your ancestors’ karma. All of their mistakes, all of their avoidance patterns, and all of their pain and frustration are layered over the information that you need!

It would be so much fun if we could just tap into the sacred gifts that are contained in your cellular memory! What amazing things we could do! What a huge volume of information you would have at your disposal! You could pass any test without having to open a book! You could heal any disease even before you get sick!

The task that lies before us is how to uncover those sacred powers and memories. But before we can open the door that holds those powers, we must clear away the debris that blocks the door from opening! Karma!
We all feel frustrated when our karma comes out! It’s like a “Jack in the Box”! The wrong stuff comes out when we least want it!

We get upset when we say things that hurt our friends and loved ones! We wish we could go back and erase it! But it came out so fast that we couldn’t stop it! Why?

This is all part of our challenge to clear away the debris that blocks the door to our power!

They say that in order to gain a great gift, we must pay a great price. In a way it’s true! We must uncover the trauma before we can get to the power!

Karma is never healed until you can feel it. As my good friend John Grey said in his first best selling book, “What you can feel, you can heal! If you cannot feel it, you cannot heal it!” This is very true about karma.

We cannot clear our karma by just thinking about it. No karma is ever removed just because we understand it. We must feel it before we heal it. We must experience it and undo it.

The great Tibetan Master Naropa said, “Karma is not your enemy. It is your best friend! It is your teacher. It is this teacher that will bring you to Enlightenment!”

Clearing the karma may be uncomfortable, but it has great rewards. Karma brings us power and realization. As a teacher and future master we must learn everything about human karma so that we can help others to do the same. What we learn about karma must be passed on to as many others as possible. This will open the door to our greater gifts and abilities.

You chose this body for a reason. You bought this computer for all the information that it holds. All the information includes all of the karma and all of the gifts. To be human is to learn and to grow. We cannot select only the good things! We must look into our challenges and greet them with a smile. “Teach me!”

Your Cellular Memory is your encyclopedia for every thing you will do. it is your greatest asset to not only become Enlightened, but to be of service to humanity as well. Your Cellular Memory is your guidebook to being human and your textbook to become a living Master!

~ Bob Fikes
www.bob-fikes.com

YOUR broken heart

YOUR broken heart

Your broken heart is a call for help.  When your beloved’s behavior does not meet your ideals, your expectations or ideas about love or how a lover should behave, you become so utterly disappointed and hurt that your heart constricts and shuts down. The song that your madly in love heart was singing is silenced and the winds of love that carried you high, crash lands you down on the flats of your barren and cold existence.  There is no spring in your step, no zing to your creativity and no spark to your smile.  That high energy that you felt being in love and being able to love is gone.  The contrast in energy is greatly and gravely felt in your entire being. The heart being the master battery of your energy machine shuts down the entire system. Desire, drive, creativity and libido vanish in the one fell swoop of a broken heart. You have lost your mojo, and everything appears bleak and dull. This is the landscape of a broken heart.  And, surprise, surprise, it can be your greatest gift and teacher.

Your broken heart is a wake-up call if you heed it as such. Your poor heart is sending an SOS to your entire body, to your senses, your moods and your appetite.  Tell me, is there anyone of you, who has never experienced a broken heart? There is deep compassion here.  Your pain is known, seen, felt and heard.  Please know that you are being held in deep love, that this experience is happening for a very powerful reason. Your broken heart is actually a strong message from your soul for you to let go of all those ideas, expectations and ideals about love.  It is a call to surrender, to let go of opinions and preferences, to release the old ways of being and loving. It is a call from your heart to heal and become wide open, even more wide open than before, for all your heart really wants to do, is made to do, is to love. Your broken heart is actually a precious gift, if you can recognize it as such.  Your broken heart actually wants with all its might, even though it may not seem like it, to be broken wide open, to be able to hold and receive and give even more love than you ever even knew existed.

Every relationship that your heart enters into is a gateway, a portal into a new universe that you are creating for yourself.  Every relationship that you are drawn to is a call for you to move into a deeper and deeper state of self-love, self-respect and self-worth. This is not selfishness as many have been led erroneously to believe.  It is instead a deep recognition and respect of your own divine self. As you begin to love yourself more, the Hermetic Law of ‘As above so below, as within so without’ begins to be activated.  What you create deep within you is mirrored back as the love in your Beloved’s eyes. You cannot truly love another if you do not have self-love. Any measure of a lack of self-love is reflected back in the vagaries of relationship. By the same token, any judgment, wound or belief is reflected back by those around us. If you have been hurt by the behavior of another, look deep within to see what issue within yourself has been reflected back to you. If you can process your shadow and use this process to continuously love yourself more, your heart will become more open and receptive to giving and receiving love, and your experiences will gradually become more enriching and rewarding.

We are conditioned by society, our culture, traditions and beliefs about what love is, what it looks like and the ways in which we want to be loved or think we want to be loved.  Many of these ideas are based on old, outworn, unrealistic expectations that may no longer serve the new model that we humans are being called to embrace. These old outworn ideas about love keep being bandied around in novels, movies, and the media.  They perpetuate a continuous trend that keeps humans in an unsustainable loop, of playing by the rules of this love game, which in essence keeps creating more broken hearts.

As humans awaken to their divine nature, they realize that sovereignty and authenticity matter more than living up to some unrealistic ideal. Being true to yourself, your guidance, and your path becomes a necessity more than an option simply because you have learned through the pain of your broken heart what happens when you are not.

This year, 2013, the Year of the Snake is a very powerful year for many, for it will mean the shedding of skins, the shedding of much – inauthenticity, irrelevancy, redundancy, that which no longer serves the higher purpose of the individual and the planet at large.  It is a dawning of a new understanding, that we as a species are all interconnected, not only to each other, but to every living creature and to the Earth herself. The process of awakening can be slow and gradual or it can be instantaneous.  The choices are ours to make.

We can use our broken hearts to our advantage, to help in our awakening process, to open ourselves up to love, to be love, to live from the heart, to embrace all forms of life with lovingness. Sadly, some people suffer from a broken heart their entire life, never being able to open up their hearts again. Society and culture do not teach us a different way of loving.  It is imperative to create your own code for loving, one that works for you. Never fear, you will find your beloved and your tribe to share your Love Code with. Share this with a friend who may be suffering from the pain of a broken heart.  We all need to learn, to grow and to help each other in lovingness.  Please remember to be kind to the one in pain.  It is in our human compassion that we learn the true meaning of love and forgiveness.

May the joyful gift of a wide-open and loving heart be yours.

Aloha.

Veenaa Saynana Laughing Dolphin

04/02/13            www.veenaasaynana.com                veenaasaynana@gmail.com

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Article Communication

I had several people ask me to open a conversation about how we can be more mindful about responding to people’s experiences and vulnerable posts here. I would like this place to be a culture of support, connection, and learning.

The women here have always shared really vulnerable stories. I love that fact and I want to keep that happening. I’ve seen over and over again that many women say this is the only place they feel comfortable sharing their story…both celebrations and pain.

As our group grows we will have a bigger and bigger range of skill sets around how we respond to vulnerable posts. While we can’t control how everyone responds we can name that there are specific skills that can be implemented when someone is sharing something particularly vulnerable.

First, if you are the sharer:

1) Ask for specifics around what you want from the group. (ie. active listening, reflections, hearing others stories on the topic.)

2) Name things you don’t want. (ie advice, triggered reactions, etc)

If you are the responder:

1) If the person hasn’t asked for something specific then asking a clarifying question about what they need could be helpful.

2) Reflecting back something that they said that affected you is a powerful way to respond.

3) If you feel shocked and/or appalled by a vulnerable post, it’s probably a good idea to take a step back from that thread.

4) If something you want to say is very personal or private or you are very concerned, PM the person.

5) Ask the moderators to step in if you are concerned. You can PM us anytime. Misha, Gayle, Airial, Angi

6) Try to avoid giving advice unless specifically asked for by the poster.

7) If you feel a charge of anger or are triggered by what a person says we encourage you to talk to them directly in a PM. It is very easy to dehumanize another person online and private messaging brings the connection to a more personal level.

Before you Speak, THINK

T – Is it True?

H – Is it Helpful?

I – Is it Inspiring?

N – Is it Necessary?

K – Is it Kind?

Accessing Ancestral Wisdom

Accessing Ancestral Wisdom
A Daylong Quest on Mt Tamalpais
Saturday April 12th, 10am-6pm

Come join us on a hike, potluck feasting and ceremony up on Mt Tamalpais, accessing the beauty, love and support of our ancestors out in nature.

We will create an offrenda, a communal sacred altar, followed by an ancient healing ritual led by Veenaa Saynana, for clearing away ancestral patterns that no longer serve us. We will call in for the collective support of our ancestors, through feasting on ancestral food, music and dancing.

We will then create an ‘Ancestral Nest’, moving ourselves through guided visualization into becoming a receiving portal, communing with Mother Earth and the wisdom of our ancestors, receiving the necessary guidance, clarity and direction for our path ahead.

We will close with a communal blessing ritual and then hike back to our starting point.

What to bring:

Items for the Offrenda (pictures, photographs, symbolic items, crystals, etc)

Water, a Dish to share that reminds you of your heritage, snacks.

A journal, some simple art supplies, symbolic well-chosen music on a ipod/phone.

A compact outdoor blanket/sleeping bag, cushion, to create your ‘Ancestral Nest’

Dress comfortably, in layers, with suitable footwear for a mildly strenuous hike.

Energy Exchange: Sliding Scale of $150-90

Partial Work Trade available, please inquire.

A non-refundable deposit of $50 is required to reserve your place. Space is limited to 15, so hurry and register as it will fill up fast. Send an email to veenaasaynana@gmail.com with your details and deposit through paypal. Or call Veenaa at 510 213 3721.

More About Veenaa Saynana

Veenaa Saynana is a healer and facilitator who has practiced in three continents. She is the author of the upcoming ‘The Magdalene Letters- Flame of Ascension’ and has recorded a Cd on Ascension Meditation. She is a performer and dancer, having produced and directed several of her fascinating one-woman shows. She is trained in several modalities including shamanic rituals, energy medicine and DNA Sequencing Therapy. She has a successful healing practice in the Bay area and internationally. She is available for private sessions by appointment.

Our Psychic Ability Can Change our Lives for the Better

If the doors of perception were cleansed,
every thing would appear to man as it is, infinite.
 For man has closed himself up, till he sees all things
 through narrow chinks of his cavern.
—William Blake

Veenaa Saynana | The Third Eye, Psychic Skills Retreat, Ohio

Psychic abilities, which we all possess—offer a spacious mind that can change your life and your view of reality. Buddhists and Hindus practiced advanced forms of psychic abilities called Siddhis long before Christ. Scientific interest has been building and the evidence is now out, especially in the fields of quantum mechanics, which offers clear, research based facts on the science behind these abilities. Such abilities come under many terms: clairvoyance, ESP, psi, which is taken from the Greek alphabet and means ‘psyche’ or ‘soul’. Remote viewing, telepathic communication, auto-writing and scrying are skills that many modern people from all walks of life can learn easily and readily develop through practice.

The benefit to acquiring these skills is that perception shifts from a logical, linear-based perception, to a more expansive, spacious and intuitive awareness of reality. Information that is unavailable to the logical mind can appear serendipitously to the intuitive mind. The experience of the latter has been known to be life transforming, and to the uninformed or uninitiated mind, can appear at times to be freaky, scary and unpredictable. An experienced teacher is able to teach the skills necessary and guide the novice through these shifts in perception.

Most people can learn to quiet their mental chatter and move their conscious awareness from their ordinary ego-based mind-set to a much more spacious and expanded mindset—not bound by the barriers of space and time. The eighth-century Buddhist master Padmasambhava described a meditative skill he called moving from conditioned awareness to spacious or naked awareness. Modern man’s internalized perception of nature is often obstructed and distorted by excessive mental noise. This illusion and misperception is what Buddhists call maya or samsara —and it can cause a lot of unnecessary suffering.

This suffering takes its toll on the body, especially pronounced in the calcification of the pineal gland, caused by a build-up of toxins, heavy emotions and marked by a propensity for anxiety, stress-causing behavior and addictions. Meditation, energy clearing, prayer, being out in nature and exercise are ways in which we can decalcify our pineal gland, thereby reducing our stress and incessant, anxious mental chatter. Many are becoming aware of the insidious ways in which they suffer, and realizing that that is not the way we are meant to live. Our bodies are our temples, and the way in which we care for them can make a very big difference to how we experience life.

Developing our psychic gifts is completely connected to our consciousness and essential for understanding our true nature. At the higher levels of consciousness, our perception changes and so does our view of reality. We essentially become more peaceful and loving at these higher levels of consciousness, and sometimes, even let go of relationships, jobs, ways of being that no longer seem relevant. We embrace a way of being that is in alignment with our higher natures and it can seem very different to everyone else, and even to ourselves!

I feel that it is very important for us, as a species to embrace this higher evolution, as a path of ascension, primarily because the war and aggression that occurs at the lower levels of consciousness is destroying our species and this beautiful Earth that we live on.
By Veenaa Saynana, Medical Intuitive, Psychic Surgeon, Author & Speaker.

Veenaa Saynana will be teaching The Third Eye, A Psychic Skills Retreat at Hopesprings Institute, from May 20-22nd, 2016 – click here for more information or to register for the retreat.